Eating Alone

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Liz Waid and Adam Navis look at the many reasons people eat alone. They also look at how eating alone may influence a person’s health.

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Welcome to Spotlight. I’m Liz Waid.

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And I’m Adam Navis. Spotlight uses a special English method of broadcasting. It is easier for people to understand, no matter where in the world they live.

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People are eating out at Moomin Café, a restaurant in Tokyo, Japan. Some people sit with their friends while they eat. Other people may not have brought friends. But instead of being alone, they are sitting with large stuffed animals. These white animals are not alive. They are toys as large as humans. The toy Moomin is based on a cartoon animal from Finland. They are cute and fun. But they also have another purpose. They help people who come to the restaurant by themselves to feel less lonely.

Moomin Café in Japan
photo by Hsuanya Tsai
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More and more people around the world eat by themselves. Forbes magazine reports that in the U.S., adults eat nearly half of their meals alone. Some researchers have found that eating alone is not good for people’s health. Others think that it is a good experience to eat meals by yourself. Today’s Spotlight is on eating alone.

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In many places, people feel strange eating out alone. And most restaurants do not have stuffed toys to keep their customers company! But the Telegraph reports that this is changing:

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“Eight in ten people in the United Kingdom believe that eating alone is more socially acceptable than it was five years ago. Almost a third of Britons have done so in the last month. And a third of these had done it in the last week. This shows that the shame of the table for one is on the way out.”

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Many parts of our world are changing quickly. This affects how people eat, and who they eat with. Many people are moving to new cities. Others have jobs where they travel far from home. People must sometimes eat in restaurants in places where they do not know anyone. The structure of families is also changing. A study published in the health magazine Obesity Research & Clinical Practice looked at this issue. This study, from South Korea, explained how changing family structures influence the way we eat. Time Magazine reported on the study:

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“Families in many regions of the world have become smaller in recent decades. There are also more one-person homes. Studies find that ‘at the same time, eating patterns have become irregular, informal, and individualized in the form of more eating alone’.”

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This study also found that eating alone can be bad for people’s bodies. Men who ate at least two meals alone every day, were more likely to have some particular health issues. These issues include higher risk for heart disease and diabetes. Men who ate alone were also more likely to be obese. Eating alone is also connected to emotional health such as feelings of loneliness.

man eating hamburger
Photo by Marcel Heil 
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But there can be good things about eating alone too! Sometimes people use this as a time to be thoughtful and thankful about their lives. Or maybe it is just a moment of quiet time to think. If you eat alone, you can also eat whatever you want. This might lead to unhealthy food choices for some people. But it is an opportunity to concentrate on what you need for your own health and happiness. And, if you go out alone, you might meet new people and find a new friendship.

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The Moomin Café in Japan welcomes people dining alone with a stuffed animal. But in other restaurants people can eat alone in a different way. Another restaurant that is especially for people eating alone is in the Netherlands. It is a small pop-up restaurant so it can move to different locations. It is named Eenmaal. This means ‘one meal’ or ‘one time’ in English. At Eenmaal, there are only tables for one. Each meal is perfectly sized for one person. No one is permitted to bring in cell phones or computers. Customers read books. They enjoy fresh food and their own company. Marina van Goor designed Eenmaal. She tells OZY.com about Eenmaal’s social influence:

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“We wanted to break the very well-known shame of eating out alone. I noticed that in our society, there is actually no room for being alone in public spaces. We could create a franchise of many more restaurants like this one. I strongly believe it will work anywhere, and there is a need for it.”

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Modern lifestyles and technology can make people very busy all the time. Many people have smartphones with them everywhere they go. People may even go out to eat with others but spend most of the meal on their phones! Layla Khoury-Hanold experimented with eating out every day by herself. She did this for a week. She wrote an article about it for the website Refinery29. She did not let herself use her smartphone while she was eating out. She was worried that people would stare at her. But they did not. Khoury-Hanold writes about what she noticed instead:

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“I was getting bored and had to almost sit on my hands. Otherwise I would pull my phone out of my purse and disappear into Instagram. But when I looked around the room, I realized that more than half of the diners were staring at phone screens. They were not staring at me. They were not even looking at the people sitting across from them!”

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Photo by Chetan Hireholi
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The modern world has changed the way we live and eat. Some people might really be eating “alone” even when they are out with other people! It is not important who people eat with. It is how much they concentrate on what they are experiencing. In this way, a meal alone can be just as good, or even better, than a meal with others.

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Eating alone can be a lonely experience. But it can also be a wonderful one. Many people even enjoy eating meals alone. Of course, eating is an important part of every culture around the world. But if you cannot eat with friends, you can still enjoy good food and good company – your own!

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How many meals a week do you eat by yourself? Do you feel comfortable going out to eat alone? You can leave a comment on our website. Or email us at radio@radioenglish.net. You can also comment on our Facebook page at Facebook.com/spotlightradio.

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The writer of this program was Rena Dam. The producer was Michio Ozaki. The voices you heard were from the United Kingdom and the United States. All quotes were adapted for this programme and voiced by Spotlight. You can listen to this program again, and read it, on the internet at www.radioenglish.net. This programme is called “Eating Alone”

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Question:

How often do you eat alone? Do you feel comfortable eating alone? Write your answer in the comments below.

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13 comments
  • this is a good question… actually usually l eat all my male alone like now because
    I wake up early and I sleep early so male breakfast and dinner I am eating alone
    about lunch, I will try to eat together with my family because there so late and I can’t Patience.
    this is new information

    Thanks a lot

  • I seldom eat alone because I live in a campus so I have to share my food at least with one colleague .
    Of course I feel comfortable when I eat alone because I can clear my mind out of many things and think in a good way .

  • It depends on my mood, sometimes I eat alone and some other time I don’t.when I eat alone in a restaurant with a lot of people there , I feel uncomfortable,but if there a few people I don’t feel uncomfortable.

  • Hi everyone,
    I’m Balázs from Hungary. This is a real good program. Personally I think this program also shows very well social distance among people. Not to mention COVID-19 and its all circumstances which have changed our whole life. Nowadays the majority of people prefer virtual connection with their friends, family, or anyone who is achievable on social networks. This is an easy way to keep the connection to anyone and anywhere. Next to a cup of coffee at a restaurant or during traveling. It’s amazing the digital life how fast to spread day to day. Unfortunately, it has negative aspect too. We lose more and more from our personal contacts. Youth can’t see good examples from our rush life. Where can all this lead?
    Sometime it would be good to listen to a program about technology and its social effects.

    Spotlight English staff, you’re the best online channel.

  • I agree that when you eat alone, you’re feeling comfortable. Because when you eat alone in your home or any restaurant this is give you a relax and prosperity and enjoy the time to see favorite videos without someone just he talkative whole the day.

  • I am bashful so I hate when ate alone in a restaurant but now I have to be more daring because I will be live alone away from my family so I have to go to a restaurant sometimes

    thank you spotlight

  • Firstly Thanks for this information
    really this is useful for me .
    According to the question i prefer to eat alone most of the time
    i fell that is comfortable for me i don’t now why or what i choose eat alone

  • well, I don’t usually go out for eating but I probably like eating at home alone, cause it’s more comfortable and quite. but when I go for eating outside I love to go with company.

  • From: ssramossilva@gmail.com
    To: spotlight program
    Subject: to answer to the questions below
    Date: Saturday 24, October 2020
    Locations: São Paulo city – São Paulo Brazil South America

    Dear Liz Waid, Adam Navis, Rena Dam, and Michio Ozaki

    First, I want to tell you that thank you very much for bringing us more one great article.
    Question 1 – How often do you eat alone?
    Answer 1 – I always eating alone. I eat alone everyday because I live alone with my three cats.
    Question 2 – Do you feel comfortable eating alone?
    Answer 2 – Yes, I do. If I have a company to eat with It would be better but I do not have one. So my cats are my companies to see me at the table at home eating.
    God bless you
    Severino Ramos da Silva
    Brazil

  • I often eat alone breakfast in the morning, because a wake up earlier than my family, and afternoon snack, because I come home from school and no one is at home because my parents are at work and my brother is out or at school. Sometimes i feel comfortable and sometimes I don’t feel comfortable. I feel comfortable becauce I can eat how much food I want and without my dogs, because they don’t jump at me and don’t bark at me. I don’t feel comfortable when I eat alone because I don’t have someone who I can talk with.

  • I rarely eat alone. because I live with my family and I usually eat with them in the evening. In the afternoon, I have lunch with my co-worker.
    However, if I must eat alone. I think it is OK. because I have a silent time for myself.

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